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How to set boundaries with your co-parent

On Behalf of | Feb 7, 2024 | Child Custody

Healthy boundaries are critical when it comes to co-parenting, whether it’s a calm or high-conflict co-parenting situation. You and your co-parent being on the same page about what to do and what to avoid can reduce the chances of misunderstandings in the future.

Here is how you can set boundaries:

Choose a communication method and time

How will you contact each other? When should this happen? How can you reach out to each other during emergencies?

When you and your co-parent agree on these matters, you can have effective communication, which can reduce conflicts. 

Agree on topics to discuss

In addition to choosing a communication channel, it’s vital to set boundaries on the topics to discuss. For example, you can choose to only discuss subjects related to your children and avoid matters that may have led to the divorce or your new relationships.

Consider technology

Technology is positively impacting co-parenting. Co-parents can now use various platforms to set reminders, upload vital documents, share videos of the kids, request a schedule change and so on. 

And while offering these benefits, such platforms can help co-parents set boundaries. They won’t need to call each other now and then since all the details one needs can be found on the particular platform.

Be consistent

Staying consistent is a healthy principle between co-parents. You and your co-parent should agree on drop off/pick time, disciplinary action, bedtime and vacation plans.

Not only can this help your children feel secure, but you and your co-parent will be clear on what’s expected of you.

Limits are crucial in co-parenting. You need to have healthy boundaries regarding the above-discussed matters. Legal guidance can help you establish a peaceful co-parenting plan.